Drippy Faucets and Delightful Friends

Bible Reading:
Parents and children Proverbs 1:8-9; 10:1; 11:29; 15:20; 17:2,6,21,25; 19:26; 20:20; 23:22-25; 28:24
The elderly Pr. 16:31; 20:29
Women and wives Pr. 11:22; 12:4; 14:1; 18:22; 19:13-14; 21:9,19; 27:15-16
Kings and rulers Pr. 14:28,35; 16:10,12-15; 17:7,11; 19:12; 20:2,8,26,28; 21:1; 22:11; 23:1-3; 24:21-22; 25:2-7; 28:2-3,15-16; 29:4,12,14
Messengers Pr. 13:17; 25:13
Companions Pr. 12:26; 13:20; 14:7; 17:17; 18:24; 24:1-2; 27:8-10; 29:24
Various Concerns (Caution, Reputation, Courage, Hope) Pr. 3:25-26; 13:12,19; 14:32; 16:17; 22:1,3,5,13; 23:17-18; 25:9-10; 24:10; 26:13; 28:1

On wives:

"An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who shames him is as rottenness in his bones" (12:4 NASB)
"The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down" (14:1)
"A quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping on a rainy day." "Better to live on a corner of the roof … better to live in a desert … than to share a house with a quarrelsome and ill-tempered wife" (19:13-14; 21:9; 25:24; 21:19; 27:15-16)

I guess Solomon would rather be anywhere than with a quarrelsome wife! He surely must have had many "drippy faucets" in his multitude of wives! The same verses could also apply to a quarrelsome and ill-tempered husband!

My husband says that the reason most men stop communicating with their wives is because they just get tired of quarreling and being put down all the time. They would rather isolate themselves and pretend that they're the king of the castle than to face the conflict and risk being jabbed at with insults and ridicule. Perhaps some of the proverbs about kings would then also apply to husbands: "A king's rage is like the roar of a lion, but his favor is like dew on the grass" (19:12). (I much prefer his favor!) "He who loves a pure heart and whose speech is gracious will have the king for his friend" (22:11).

In order to fix a drippy faucet, the source of the drip must be addressed. I don't have to ignore the issues, but I should try to employ words of grace and an attitude of respect if I want "the king" to be my friend, not my enemy. Whether the "drippy" one is a husband, wife, child, or co-worker, we all respond better to acceptance and encouragement than to insults and ridicule.

Lord, make me aware of the tone I use toward my husband. When I have a "drippy faucet" that needs to be fixed, make the drip as loud in my ears as it is in his. Help me approach sensitive issues with a loving attitude and an open mind and spirit. Make resolution, not winning, be my goal! May my speech be gracious and my thoughts pure, that I might enjoy my husband's favor and have him for my friend. Help me to treat him with respect and honor, that he might feel valued like a king and that I might be his "crown" and joy.


On friendship:

"A friend loves at all times" (17:17)
"There is a friend who sticks closer than a brother" (18:24)
"Perfume and incense bring joy to the heart, and the pleasantness of one's friend springs from his earnest counsel" (27:9)
"Just as lotions and fragrance give sensual delight, a sweet friendship refreshes the soul" (27:9 Msg).

Lord, help me to be a loving and loyal friend. Thank you for enriching my life with good friends (including my husband!). May we pamper and delight each other with lotions, fragrances (such as coffee, baked goodies and flowers), encouragement, and earnest counsel, building sweet friendships that refresh our souls and fill our hearts with joy.